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Mediation / Multi-Dynamics
Making sense of complex multi-dynamics,
so you can move forward on equal footing.
Navigating Multi-Dynamics
Mediation is for two or more parties navigating a multilayered, highly nuanced, and complex situation. Often, due to numerous variables and past interactions, the parties involved are left unable to reach any meaningful resolution to the issues they are wrestling with.
Sometimes there are so many moving cogs that it seems practically impossible to make sense of the complexity. I refer to this complexity as "Multi-Dynamics." It is not just a matter of differing people; it involves differing ideas, fears, emotions, and experiences that all play a part. The "parties" involved can range from a single person to an entire family. Naturally, the more people involved, the greater the opportunity for misunderstanding.
My role in this process is to juggle these many layers simultaneously, while maintaining a completely equal and level approach to all concerned.
What Makes My Approach Different
While the goal of the mediator is always to be completely impartial, my practice operates with two distinct standards:
Direct Confrontation of Dysfunction: If there is a clearly dysfunctional dynamic being endorsed during the process, I will point that dysfunction out and explain why it is dysfunctional.
Wisdom Over Rigid Theory: As with other areas of my practice, where advice is asked for and wisdom is required, I will offer it. This advice and wisdom is typically drawn through biblical principles, but it also pulls from years of experience working with complicated, multi-faceted dynamics.
The Mediation Process
1. Individual Preliminary Meetings
Before meeting as a group, I will meet with the parties individually. This allows me to establish a solid basis of understanding regarding the situation and the distinct perspectives involved before we bring everyone into the same room.
2. Creating a Safe, Objective Space
Once we gather, mediation looks to provide an emotionally safe space for previously emotionally unsafe discussions to take place.
Hearing All Sides: I am less interested in who is right, and more focused on the right path moving forward.
An Objective View: I provide an external ear and a completely objective view to hear the core issues, identify commonalities, and work with all concerned to reach a place of mutual understanding.
3. Defining the Outcome
It is important to note that mediation is not always about complete reconciliation of the relationship. Sometimes, the best possible outcome is simply ensuring that each party can leave on the same footing—hopefully moving forward free from ill-will or bitterness between each other.
